Posts by riannanicole13

I'm a mid 20-something with a dream of getting out of the retail world, and completely diving into the online world. I adore animals (mostly dogs, wolves, and owls), nature, traveling, and helping people plan their lives, as I am just as horrible at times on planning mine. This is my story, as an unfortunately fortunate millennial, going though life.

Audio Book Review: I Can’t Make This Up

This book is longer than you think this is, let me tell you. DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE COMEDIANS.

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So I made the mistake of thinking I’d be able to catch up on 2 seasons of Thrones, read a book, work on this blog, finish this particular audio book, plus do all I was during my 16 day vacation last month. Obviously we saw how that went. So I finally finished Kevin Hart’s I Can’t Make This Up audio book last night.

If you know who Kevin Hart is, his book (especially the audio version) is nothing short of anything that Kevin produces. He even has some commentary from his dad put into it, and him trying to narrate it is just as amusing as his comedy specials and clips.

If you don’t know who Kevin Hart is, please, just stop here, go watch his stuff, ANYTHING REALLY, even if it’s on YouTube. You’ve probably seen his face on some GIF reactions IRL (well, on the internet IRL).

This book is the story of his life. It doesn’t just stop at his fame. He goes through his upbringing, his trouble with his now ex-wife that was a long up and down roller coaster type of relationship, to his career, and even the downfalls of his character (and still makes it amusing, because we can all relate somehow).

It’s everything you think it’d be, if you’ve seen any of his comedy specials. Listening to him narrate it, I think makes it. It adds his personality better, and his style. So if you’re debating on just reading it or listening to it, I 100% recommend the audio version. Grant it, I’m totally biased since I didn’t read it, but listened to it.

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Evil in America: Another Book Review

To add another book review to my list this year for you guys, I finally finished June’s book.

Since we’re in Mercury retrograde, and I’m taking time off of social media, I can tend to the things that I truly want to tend to. Not like I couldn’t do those things anyway, and I should get better about managing future aspirations and betterment and mindless scrolling of social media that doesn’t do much other than either smiles or frowns.

Now let’s get into the book review instead of babbling about pointless stuff. You probably came here to read my commentary and thoughts about the book and not tangents. The book was, you guessed it: Evil in America.

I do regularly listen to Shapiro’s podcast and occasionally read the articles he writes, when they come up on my Google homepage for recommended reads. With that, you would think that by now I would have read at least one of his books already. Nope, this is my first.

He has an interesting take on things, and that shows in his writing. I like how he took, in Evil in America, each “chapter” was a headline or big topic happening at the time he wrote it. He shared the date for when he wrote the commentary as well. It’s a good reminder for those of us reading it later in time.

Not like we don’t necessarily recall those events (some I didn’t know about because I wasn’t so politically involved at the time), but putting a date with it, helps file it better in our brains like “Oh, okay, that’s when that was”.

Shapiro has a new book he’s currently working on and will be due out in 2019, and I plan on getting it.

Life Experience: Removing Your Wisdom Teeth Out at 23

So 2 weeks ago, I finally got my wisdom teeth out. A week ago, I got the stitches out. And 2 weeks from now, I go back in for my last check up, to make sure that my gums are healed correctly. If you haven’t gone to get those suckers out, there’s 4-5 appointments total for them, depending on if you get dissovable stitches or not.

I had 5 total, from the x-ray at my dentist office, to see which wisdom teeth I had (you can not have all 4), to the surgery, to the check ups. For the record, in my experience, it’s not as bad as you want to hype yourself up for. Trust me, I went there before my surgery. Now you don’t have to!

The first thing you have to do, when you think/feel/see that you need to get your wisdom teeth removed, is get to your regular dentist (or find one, and make friends with them).

If you’re still a minor, and living with your parents, talk to them to get you that appointment (if you want to be on good terms with your parents, and want to build some “adult skills”: get your dentist’s number from them, look at your schedule [if you work, your school schedule, extra-curriculars, and other life events], ask your parents’ schedule over the next month, and what would be a good day or days to make an appointment).

In my case, I was having off and on “teething” pain for years, I figured that since my teeth weren’t moving, I wasn’t in blinding agony from the pain, and I didn’t see them coming in, when being that person while in my bathroom at home. Earlier this year, while being that person, I did see that my right bottom wisdom tooth was making herself known: I saw her *side* (haha).

I made an appointment with my dentist (okay, so this was the first time in forever I’ve been to the dentist, and my first time as an adult, so I had to do all of it on my own). They cleaned my teeth, looked at if I needed any other work done (which, thank god, I still have perfectly healthy teeth…still no work done to my “regular” teeth!), and they did the x-ray to see which wisdom teeth I had, and which ones they were. I had only the bottom 2.

After that, they gave me options of local surgeons that they (and other people) liked. I asked the receptionist which one she found was most popular/she liked. She mentioned the closest one, and I made my second good call. The first was going with my dentist. I rather like him, and my man even likes him (compared to the place he used to go to…that’s a half a story, not meant for here).

I made the call to the surgeon’s office, and went to the appointment. Before that, I dove into too much research, that I could. At the initial appointment, you go over what they’re looking at doing, and what might happen, and all those things that have a small percentage of happening. After that, it’s setting up the appointment for the surgery.

At this point, they should ask how far under you want to go. I personally went half under. Yes, you get an IV drip for it, but I didn’t get laughing gas.

Post that, it’s the waiting game until the surgery. I had to wait pretty much 2 months for my surgery. I’m assuming it’s not too much different wherever you’re at (at least here in the States). But when you get there, you might be somewhat anxious (which is OK!), but the drugs do work, and the risk of anesthesia awareness is small (1 in almost 20,000 people, or .01% of people).

For me, it was a matter of maybe 20-30 seconds from insertion of the IV, to them opening the drip, to where you’re “passed out”. Then a half hour or so later (depending on how many teeth you have coming out…even if they have to drill, like they did with one of mine), you wake up, and they’ll give you something to drink and ask how you feel.

After that, you (and your ride) will go to the pharmacy, and put in the script for your antibiotics (so you don’t get sick…your mouth is dirtier than you think), pain meds, and an oral rinse that you’re supposed to use for a week after surgery.

All I have to say is REST after surgery. When you feel the need to sleep, for the love that is is good and holy, SLEEP GIRL SLEEP.  Take it easier than you want to (or think, prior to surgery) for 24-36 hours post surgery, depending on how you feel. You’ll want all that rest, as it’s not so much the near 24 hours post surgery that suck, it’s the almost week after.

FULL DISCLOSURE: I’m no doctor or pharmacist, this is just from my personal experience, and being surrounded by people who had many oral surgeries.

When you get home from surgery, take some Motrin or an anti-inflammitory over the counter, when you’re able to drink something. Try to milk out those pain meds you were given, by taking Motrin a little before when your “next round” of pain meds are due, and offsetting the time that is on the bottle. Try to keep away from the pain meds for as long as possible right after surgery, and use that Motrin instead. Take 2 or 3 of them, and your future self will thank your post-surgery past self. It’ll come in handy when the real pain sets in, about 2-3 days after surgery.

The pain is more achey pain, and not a harsh pain. An odd tip: massage your jaw. It’ll help with getting that pain away, and getting that mobility back, so you can eat “real food” again.

For food, you don’t need as much applesauce and pudding as you think. Another FOR THE LOVE OF ALL GOOD AND HOLY tip: DON’T USE STRAWS for a at least 48-72 hours post surgery. Not from personal experience, but talking with friends, one in particular got a dry socket and was one of the worst experiences for her.

When you feel like you’re ready to start chewing stuff again, be mindful of what you eat. Try to stay away from chewing with your molars. They’re going to be sensitive, let alone you don’t want to bug the stitches too much. Try things like quesdillas or bean and cheese burritos, in bites small enough to give to a toddler trying new foods.

Make sure to do everything at your own pace. Don’t let anyone try to force you to do anything you don’t want to, food or even exercise. You know your body the best, and you know what you need and don’t need to do.

If you’ve had your wisdom teeth taken out, what was your experience? What tips did I miss?

Mercury Retrograde: Trying Out New Plans

Today started the second Mercury retrograde of 2018. This will last until the 19th of August for me, here on the east coast of the US. I don’t know what sparked the idea to plan out what I wanted to do, but it happened.

For the first retrograde this year, I took time off of social media, and created this blog. I officially launched it at the end of Lent, which was way after the end of retrograde, but whatever.

This one, like the last, I had some things I wanted to accomplish, as well as go back offline during retrograde. This time, I’m debating on going offline until the end of August, a little longer than the retrograde period, but since I did it last time similarly, I figure why not.

The only thing is, is to plan out the last near 10 days that I didn’t before the retrograde started. I could work on that during my 2 laundry days that I only have donation on.

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So the first thing I did, after brainstorming all I wanted to do, while I reflect during this retrograde, is organize it on a website/app called Trello. Visit the website here or download the app for Android or iOS.

I made a complete board for Mercury Retrograde, and I have a few boards to the right, that are for the next retrograde (November 17-December 6). I think I’ll at least keep this out of this little experiment.

Some of the cards have to-do lists, or checklists on them, which is the little check mark and 0/(insert number here). Since this is day one, there isn’t anything checked off. Once this goes live, I can check off my first thing under my blog checklist.

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Next, I made a chart, for how long Mercury would be in retrograde, and sorted out what I wanted to do for each day, from the trello lists. The more bite-sized you make it, and keep things super simple, you won’t get overwhelmed (a great practice for regular day life, but super great for where time seems to be even more out of your grasp, like a planet retrograde.).

From there, I’m taking one day at a time, because Mercury either flies past you, and you did nothing, or you take even smaller bites of what you need to do, and work on a day by day basis.

If you have projects due, or stuff like that, please DO NOT PROCRASTINATE. It’ll come to the due date a lot quicker than you think. Think of that stupid phrase on your side mirrors on your car. (haha, punny right?!)

Being a person who is ruled by Mercury (a Virgo), and learning about the planets, how they affect people overall, then especially over those that they rule over, it’s making more sense of how much I feel of certain things, and when. I am a task-doer and love to keep busy, but tend to bite off more than what I can chew, so things like this are so helpful, and truly needed.

Planning is more and more important to me, and that’s why I want to share my journey with whoever will listen, hopefully benefiting someone else’s journey. This may help more than just myself, even if I’m just playing around with ideas, and seeing what works and what doesn’t for myself. Hopefully something will stick with you as well, even if it’s through my trial and error, or even if I don’t care for it myself.

Wine Wednesday: Nelson Mandela

This is Nelson Mandela’s 100th birthday. I took a poll on my social media platforms about interest on him and the Mandela effect. I got good feedback on ya’ll wanting to know about him, and more so about the Mandela effect. So cue the research, the playlist, the drinks, and ALL OF THE READING.

I’ll keep his background short for ya’ll, since it seems like the Mandela effect is what is most of interest. If you want an in depth background to his story, check out this book.

To get all of the generics out of the way, Nelson Mandela was born literally 100 years ago (July 18th, 1918) in a small South African village, in the Eastern Capes of South Africa. He died early December of 2013 in Johannesburg, South Africa. Yes, this is where the Mandela effect comes into play.

He had 3 different wives, the last one being his wife until he passed away. He had a son that passed away before he did as well, which is interesting to me (car accident). In all, he had 5 children, and over 30 awards for a varying of reasons. He also had 9 other siblings, which I don’t feel as uprising, but being an only child myself, I find just simply find interesting.

Let’s get into what ya’ll came here for, shall we? As in that good ol’ Mandela effect, how it came about, and some things that have happened since this became a thing.

The reason I gave some backstory to Nelson Mandela, is simply because of the Mandela effect. If you don’t know the basics of the Mandela effect, well…honey, you’re gonna learn real quick here.

The phenomenon that has come to be known as the Mandela effect is the idea or fact that a collective of people remember/recall an event or thing taking place, only for that said thing to happen some good chunk of time later. It can also include mass though on something as simple as a catchphrase or viral theme/thing catching on, when a collective does the same thing, and think that this had already become a thing. Think of it as a variation of deja vu.

Now I know there’s the technical term of the Mandela effect (False Memory Syndrome…mainly explored by Psychologist Sigmund Freud. Yes, the same guy who was all about sexual behaviors), but one thing my stepmom brought up recently, in a car ride, is: what was the Mandela effect, before the Mandela effect?

Why is it called the Mandela effect though? The main reason is half because he was so prominent, and the other because people thought that he had died while he was serving time in prison (read his prison letters here), in the 1980’s. Looking back at his life, he held presidency, had SO MANY international awards, and did quite a bit for about 30 years from the time he “died” until he actually died.

This isn’t a matter of things like the “cloning” or replicating of a person sort of thing. It’s raw deja vu on a mass populous. I’ve even had this experience, even lately. I had to ask my better half about YouTube’s dark screen mode lately. Asking him was my most recent spell of it, like a planet retrograde.

My main question(s) is: Why do so many of us have so many Mandela effect memories, what causes it, and why does it happen to so many people, with different upbringings, origins, and life choices? Do you have any thoughts?

Do you want to watch some Mandela effect videos? Check out Shane Dawson‘s series on his channel here and Hailey Reese’s spin off series here.

Remember to check out the reads listed in this post:
Nelson Mandela’s autobiography
Nelson Mandela’s prison letters

 

Vacation Throwback: Summer of ’18 in CA

*Cue Roaring 20’s and Old Fashioned by Panic! at the Disco in the background, on repeat* (meaning at least listen to the songs once, PLZ, then just listen to the rest of the album…yes I may be too much of a fan)

DISCLAIMER: All photos are mine, even the header.

This was the vacation I needed, and in the same note of I wanted it, I didn’t know I NEEDED so badly. I truly grew so much, learned so much, and explored so much, I can only hope to get some of it across through some of my social media posts, my pictures, and through posts like this.

I had 2 weeks, with flights, that was fairly busy, out in CA. I shared right before, my planning of it, go check it out! This is my aftermath vomit post. Yes, it took too long, sorry guys. Mind my last post on some reasoning (I know, no excuses! I hate it…I just was still recovering and couldn’t deal for some reason(s)…but here I am, getting back on the vibe).

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The first major thing I got to do, which was the reasoning for the whole vacation out to California anyway, was Yosemite. I enjoyed the time up, with, and back down, with my mom and her parents. It was 4 total days, 2 full days in the park, the last day in the middle of the park, and down the Sierra Nevada mountains.

The travel through the park, and down the Sierra Nevada’s, I’m so grateful I had the intuition and confidence to say what I would think would create some great memories and photography shots, to my grandpa (who asked me personally about how we should make our way back down to where they live).

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Yosemite couldn’t have been any more enjoyable on my end, especially as a first time visitor, with experienced visitors. When my grandma told me that my grandpa fell in love with waterfalls from their first visit at Yosemite, I can truly see why. Seeing it for myself, and seeing my grandpa, in his mid 80’s be in his element, I see it.

For some backstory: my grandpa and my dad are both photography nerds. Keep in mind, it’s my mom’s dad here, so it’s not a dad and son thing here. My late grandfather is very an “in the moment” guy, and I’ve appreciated that the more I’ve aged (which took a toll on me during this trip…the “in the moment” that Ekhart Tolle shares, especially in his book of “The Power of Now”, which has shaped me more than anything, since I read it).

I can see myself in all of them, and most so I felt that during this trip. This was my first “fun” trip since before my late grandfather passed. I had a memorable time when visiting him prior to his passing, but knowing that he was going to die is a different trip. If you’ve lost someone close, and had a weekend even with them, prior to their passing, I’m sure you know the similar feeling of what I experienced.

Since my grandfather’s passing, I’ve grown so much as a person, and even more so in the last 2 years, because I know that’s what he’d want (outside of getting over his passing). Going to Yosemite refreshed my love of nature, especially around water (lakes, waterfalls, rivers, storms), as well as photography, and being in the moment.

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Pretty much three weeks later, I’m still in shock of what I saw, and the fact that it’s now behind me. Let alone the fact that I still get mesmerized by my raw pictures that I got. I hated nearly all the pictures I was in, but the pictures I got were beyond anything.

They truly didn’t need editing. I went through about 400 pictures, and I didn’t want to edit the ones I kept. It took me forever to just “man up” and realize that I knew I didn’t have to (and didn’t want to) edit my pictures from Yosemite.

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Past Yosemite, it was some down time, a lunch with my mom, a family dinner, then to VidCon and Disneyland on my last day. This is where I grew the most. I noticed how far I had come at that point, as a person, as well as an adult. A lot can happen from 18 to 23.

Some unfortunate things happened on some plans for VidCon, and it turned into a long solo weekend. The universe knew better than I did. I broke down one night even, but I needed to experience a breakdown totally alone to become stronger.

I knew that even during the breakdown. I’m a better person from that, and because of the whole experience of the solo “weekend” if you want to call it that.

I was reminded of my strength as a person, of the fact that I’m capable of doing things on my own, and that nothing is ever as bad as what your mind tells you it is (via whatever chemical imbalances you may have, whether too much or too little of something). Something I was taught in mentor/leadership camp, I was reminded of recently: You and your body can endure so much more than you think. It’s convincing your mind of it that’s the issue.

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Vidcon was nice but isn’t worth the hype. I can’t speak for what it was (this was the first year under a new company), and although it was super interesting and neat to attend, the hype isn’t there. Which to me, makes sense. Social media and people in general hype things up so much it’s not even funny.

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VidCon made the *big* channels I tune into more personified, which is what I think is the original point of why VidCon was created. It’s sad that we need a conference to personify people that talk into a camera. But in the same way, YouTube creators are doing something the mainstream actors and news anchors aren’t: truly interacting with those who have made them who they are.

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My last big thing on this vacation was Disneyland. This was originally my only solo thing during this trip. The day there was what I needed to spark the kid in me again. I indulged in the fast pass system, and since I went alone, I only had to worry about what I wanted to do, when I wanted to do it, and it was a great experience doing something like that alone. I talked with some pretty cool people while in the ride lines, and had a blast.

I went on about 12-15 rides, ate some dole whip to cool down, and even went up and down the Tarzan tree house, for nostalgic reasons. I had a perfect day there, and even got my first set of ears! I have them hanging on my wall now.

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This trip reminded me of who I am, and how strong I’ve become in myself, especially over the last handful of years. I am so grateful for this experience, and am so glad of the memories.

Happy Hiatus

So I unintentionally took a month hiatus/vacation from posting. Not from writing though, let me tell you! I told you guys about my 2 week California trip in so many posts, and I meant to do various posts from it. But here we are, and I suck as a human being.

Since I’ve been back, I just haven’t been able to GYST (getting your sh*t together) back into things either. I flew back on a Monday, and Mondays are my GYST days. I did NOT GYST, even though I had so much down time on the flights. I just watched a half of a season of Game of Thrones and then slept and indulged myself in the presence of the LOML (love of my life) and an old friend.

I then had to somehow get back into reality of having to work, and it’s even harder being a night worker, since I got so used to sleeping at night. Grant it, it was a broken 6-7 hours at most, but trust me, when you’re not used to night sleep, you don’t need much.

Getting back into the work life, I would come home and literally somehow make food, and eat it, and legit pass out. My boyfriend would literally look over and see me in the oddest of positions, passed out. Two weeks later, I’m still fatigued, but I can make it longer before passing out. So I’d say I’m doing better haha.

None of this is me trying to make excuses. I’m just aware of my weaknesses, and wanted to share some backstory of my hiatus. I now know my limits, and will learn from this experience. I’m older, and working a light labor job, and I did a lot during my vacation to keep myself busy and active. I hardly had any “go to bed early and sleep in” nights during my vacation. Since I’ve been back, I’ve been sleeping a lot more because of that.

I wouldn’t have done it any other way though, if you’re wondering. I gained so much, and not just memories and time with my family from this. I became more in tune with myself, and learned a lot about myself, especially while in Anaheim (alone, mind you).

I found more things that I want to implement into my life during this vacation I had. I also learned my limits, like I said earlier. I learned how connected my best friend and I are, and how strong I am, and the power of no. I was reminded of how stress free my home is, and the fact that I’m in such a great place, and those that matter see it, and are so grateful and happy for me.

Now more than ever, even over the last few years, do I feel more aligned with where I’m going. I still feel the tug of needing to improve myself, and there’s so much I need to work on, but I’m right where I need to be.

There’s a point where you yourself may feel the weight of your shadow self and being in your conscious self, that you feel like you’re on the verge of a breakthrough, but it’s taking forever. Engulf yourself in it. That’s exactly where I’m at. I’m 23 almost 24. It may come sooner or later for you, but lean into it. Its hard, I know, I’m there. This is half a pep talk for me right now too.

On a better note, I have my first “actual” cookbook. Those recipes you’ve been seeing? Pinterest or from learning on my own (family recipes, family in general). Within the next couple months, I’ll start sharing some foodie days from there, and when I tweak the recipe, I’ll be sure to let you know. I’m looking forward to that.

Thursday, I’ll do a recap on my vacation, as a throwback post, so be ready!